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Came for sex but trapped with love and value

April 3, 2021 by admin 1 Comment

It was as if all the men in my life perceived me as sexually attractive, none had the intention of having me as his wife or fiancé.

This had been happening for a long time, such that any one I accept, after sleeping with me, will leave me for another. Most of them will spend, care and will be consistent in their doings just to have me on the bed, after which they will see no other reason to keep on hanging with me except for sex.

I had been seeing it as normal, believing it as the way men behave until the last man that I fell deeply in love with.

My attitude towards him was very strict because of my experience with men but he was determined and he helped me in so many ways. I am actually not the working type, I prefer staying at home and helping any man in his house, having sex and cooking for him. Going out to work, is not really my thing.

This last man really got to me with his care and I fell for him like I never did before. On a Friday, he invited me to come over after how many months of my refusal, I agreed to go, at least to spend a night. I had it in mind that I will not have sex with him.

That day, I arrived his house which was well-furnished and comfortable. We ate together, watched movies and when it was time to sleep, I told him I want to sleep on the couch. He refused, promised not to touch me, and told me to give him a chance. He was persistent and convinced me to follow him to the room. He bade he goodnight and faced the other side.

The room was cold due to the air-conditioning and later that night, I woke up and told him to switch off the AC. However, I was shaking with cold.

He covered me with the duvet and caressed me in the process. One thing led to another and we had sex.

I really enjoyed the night. In the morning, he woke me up and we ate breakfast together. He asked me if I am going, I told him no, but he insisted I go because he was expecting some of his male friends. However, he promised to call me.

I left and was expecting his call, he never called and when I call after that day, he told me he would call me whenever he needs me. This was my experience with men, some of who would be with me for months just for sex.

I was in love with this last person, and I almost killed myself. Out of despair, I made a post detailing how I was feeling on my Facebook page. Someone referred me to www.thesolacezone.com, where I got access to a counselor who helped me.

I booked for a session and which was an eye-opener as it enabled me discover a lot about myself. I decided to hire that counsellor as my personal counsellor, and over several sessions, I developed self-esteem and stopped feeling depressed.

I discovered so many things that I was not doing well, things that I neglected, one statement from the counsellor I will always remember is that, “The only way to change people’s attitude towards you is to change your attitude towards them”.

He actually made me to understand that I have a lot to offer other than sex, which was my initial mindset.

I began to add value to myself. I acquired training in fashion design, got a job and became very busy.

One day, this last man called me, and asked me to come over. He had been calling me before, but following my counsellor’s advice, a made a decision not to visit him at home.

I invited him to my place of work where he saw how busy I was. I bought food for him and spent some time with him. He seemed happy and left after some time.

Since then, he frequently always came around to see how I am doing. However, as agreed with my counselor, I never visited him.

On his birthday, my counselor told me to surprise him, I didn’t even go to his house. I invited him over to my working place, where I surprised him with a celebration. As we were together, a girl called him and he left. I was tempted to be angry and I blamed myself for not going to his house.

My counselor will always tell me to calm down for the journey is not the type that needs rush.

We stopped talking for like a week, it was as if I was losing interest in him.

To cut my story short, on my birthday, he proposed to me with a brand new car. He told me that among all his female friends, I was the one he felt would make him a better man. He was enamored with me because I was independent and caring.

We have been together from that day till now, all thanks to my counselor. I never saw my ability to cope and to change my thoughts and attitude until I was led through the process of Counselling.

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How Does Sex Affect Your Mental Health??

April 3, 2021 by admin Leave a Comment

Masturbation can improve mental health/self-esteem

BDSM correlates with mental health

Depression can decrease your sex drive

OCD can correlate with hyper-sexuality

Casual sex can impact your mental health

Sex can ease depressive symptoms

Sex can ease anxiety symptoms

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Sex and mental health   a rich topic because of how directly correlated they are to each other. We see articles one day touting how sex can improve our mental health, claiming regular sex to be the cure for everything from depression to diabetes. And then the next day, seeing articles warning against sex destroying our mental health, calling too much sex taxing on our bodies and our minds.

It’s a topic often discussed because both sex and mental health are such personal topics to the individual. They are still considered taboo areas of conversation and are still not often discussed openly and honestly amongst friends or family. But we will all at some point experience sex and how it will impact our mental health. Whether the impact is negatively or positively felt depends on how much we understand the relationship we have with sex. And to understand this relationship, here are seven different ways sex and mental health relate to each other!

1. Masturbation can improve mental health/self-esteem

Masturbation is still a taboo topic. We can see just how taboo it still is by seeing how controversial it is to discuss masturbation in sex education classes for students. And yet masturbation is not only a normal part of our sex drives, it is also a healthy manifestation of it. Masturbation helps release stress, allows us to get in touch with our bodies, and to feel pleasure without any risk of disease or pregnancy.

For women in particular, studies have shown masturbation encourages body acceptance and fosters a more open mindset for new experiences. Girls who are shamed for seeking sexual pleasure on their own grow up into women who are too shy and uncomfortable with their own bodies to explore themselves sexually. The more comfortable women feel in their own bodies, the better they can advocate for those bodies. They can better communicate to their partners what they like or don’t like in the bedroom. Masturbation helps women get to know their bodies at a literally more intimate level, helping them feel more comfortable in themselves, which in turn also makes them better partners.

2. BDSM correlates with mental health

Gone are the old days of people classifying BDSM as some kind of sexual deviancy that could point to some kind of mental disorder. BDSM has become downright mainstream, being featured prominently in movies and TV shows. But it’s not just the relaxing of social norms that has allowed BDSM to take a more central spot in the world’s sexual stage. The understanding of BDSM and its participants has broadened and deepened over the years.

In a study released by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the fundamental psychological characteristics of BDSM practitioners were compared against a control group. The results were quite surprising.

BDSM practitioners were shown to be less neurotic than their control group counterparts. They were more extroverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, and had higher subjective well-being.

A large part of these qualities come from the very nature of participating in a respectful and responsible BDSM scenario. BDSM can be dangerous if partners are not upfront and honest about their boundaries and desires. In a responsible BDSM setting, each partner must communicate clearly and develop a sense of trust before they engage in any sexual activity. This fosters a sense of openness and honesty much faster than perhaps is found in traditional, ‘vanilla’ scenarios.

3. Depression can decrease your sex drive

Depression is a condition that can affect every aspect of your life. From how you eat to how you sleep to how your sex drive functions, depression is known for throwing everything out of whack. Studies have shown a loss of libido in 25%-75% of depressed patients, with its prevalence being correlated with the severity of depression. Disorders of arousal also appear to be common amongst both men and women with approximately 25% of depressed patients reporting problems with erections or lubrications.

But it’s not just depression itself that can decrease sex drive. Often, a side effect of antidepressant medication is a decrease in sex drive. Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors are the most widely prescribed medication and have significant effects on arousal and orgasm. This decrease in sex drive is often the leading reason for premature discontinuation of drug treatment for many patients. But more varied options are coming out now. There are many antidepressant drugs that are being released that instead target norepinephrine, dopamine, and melatonin systems which cause less sexual dysfunction in patients.

But it’s important to remember, depression isn’t something one can overcome in a night. It is a condition that must be diligently worked through with some kind of combination of medication and talk therapy for several weeks to months. As frustrating as some of the side effects of antidepressants may be, it is important to keep with the regiment your doctor and/or therapist sets for you.

4. OCD can correlate with hyper-sexuality

Compulsive sexual behavior disorder is an impulse-control disorder. CSBD therefore shares clinical features with obsessive-compulsive spectrum disorders and other behavioral addictions (compulsive shopping, pathological gambling, kleptomania, etc). Studies have shown that a substantive number of OCD sufferers also suffered from CSBD. Usually this overlap was found more in men than women with the severity of the OCD correlating with the likelihood of also suffering from CSBD.

Both disorders can be managed with medication and therapy. Through help and support, it can be possible to learn to maintain a healthy and normal sex life even with impulse-control disorders.

5. Casual sex can impact your mental health

If we were to judge casual sex simply based on movies and TV, we’d never come to an ultimate conclusion on whether it was a good or bad thing. In some spaces, it is portrayed as empowering and freeing while on other platforms, it is shown to be something dangerous and damaging. So which is it?

Well, studies have shown that our mindset is what dictates how positive or negative casual sex can be. When people engage in casual sex for autonomous motives (e.g., I want the fun and enjoyment; I want to explore my sexuality), they tend to walk away from the experience happier and with higher signs of self-esteem. But when people engage in casual sex for non-autonomous motives (e.g. I want to please someone else; I want to escape something unpleasant), researchers have found that these people walk away from the encounter with lower self-esteem and signs of depression.

Therefore, agency, or lack thereof, has been found to be one of the most important factors in how casual sex can be interpreted and experienced for a person. So before you go out for that hook up or that fling, make sure that you are in the right headspace and mindset to engage in that act!

6. Sex can ease depressive symptoms

It may seem ironic after learning about the lowering of our sex drives in depressive states but it’s true that sex and intimacy can ease depressive symptoms. In fact, simple physical intimacy–intimate touching without engaging all the way to sex–can help ease depressive symptoms.

When we are depressed, we are at a chemical imbalance that leads to low moods. Studies have shown that physical intimacy can help, if just temporarily, spike up our serotonin and oxytocin levels. And the greater the relational intimacy, the better it can also help any sexual dysfunction we might be experiencing due to depression as well.

Science is essentially backing up what therapists have been telling their patients–you don’t have to do this alone. Let the people around you help.

7. Sex can ease anxiety symptoms

Just like sex can help with depressive symptoms, sex can also help with anxiety symptoms. Not only does sex increase our serotonin levels, sex can also help lower cortisol levels, our stress hormone. It also releases the hormone prolactin which is what makes us relaxed and sleepy after sex. Anxiety is our body just running on adrenaline and stress. Sex can help us unpack that energy, letting our body release the tension and stress in a fun and enjoyable way!

Sex is a deeply intimate, personal, and primal need in all of us. But so is our search for balanced mental health. We are all trying to figure ourselves out, understand our moods and our anxieties. Sex and mental health are intrinsically linked and the better we understand how they are linked, the better we can enjoy healthier, happier sex and mental states!

Sources@ DAILYWELLNESS

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Psycho-spiritual

April 1, 2021 by John Steve 6 Comments

Can you tell me the first language on Earth?

Can you tell me how we started seeing difficult task as a problem?

Our mind is really a big one and our world is in our mind.

Let me start this way for now.

It is obvious that we blame people for our failure and this has been the culture, psychologically’ blaming people is a defense mechanism. It is also some people’s way of life to suppress how they feel or to pretend something never happened just for the sake of not feeling guilty or feeling like a failure. Some even put pressure or express anger on people and accuse one another wrongly just not to feel guilty or be seen as the guilty one.

Most people react to one another aggressively because of how frustrated they are. They try to pour out their frustration on others. This backfires especially when the person they are pouring out their frustrations on are also frustrated thus resulting to violence.

There is a connection between our psych and spiritual. However, most times, the activities in the physical and spiritual world shape our minds and makes it the way it is because everything goes through the same channel.

Mental health is very important. Majority of our physical illness are caused by a prolonged mental illness or stress.

Everyone in this world is in one way or the other experiencing a little or major mental stress and deserves a rest.

Many people are mentally stressed spiritually that all they could see is people who are planning evil towards them. Some embark on fasting and prayer every month because of the same perceived enemy.

Anyone that tries to do otherwise for the development of the society, he or she will have a lot to conquer. All these stresses our mind and it shows in our body and performance or productivity.

Spirituality has really gone wrong because we sometimes misplace psychological issues with spirituality and some medical issues to spirituality.

We are what we believe’ that is why the solution to a problem differs according to our religion or belief. You can’t tell a Muslim to do a Christian task just to have an answer to his or her problem or vice versa.

No one is focused on one thing because it is difficult to survive in this nation.

Confusion is really a disease and it leads to distraction and destruction.

Vision and prophecy are real but our approach towards it backfires and causes so much problem in our society.

Can you tell me the first language on Earth?

Our mind is a road to spirituality and everything manifests from the spirit to the mind and then to our physical body or world. Counselling is a key to understanding a lot about the activities on our mind and it can also be done with the help of psycho-spiritual knowledge.  

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Mental health, common issues of mental health and their symptoms

February 25, 2021 by admin Leave a Comment

According to the World Health Organisation (2014):

“Mental health is defined as a state of well-being in which every individual realises his or her own potential, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to her or his community.”

When we are mentally well, we:

engage in productive activities
engage in fulfilling relationships
adapt and change to difficult things
When we are mentally unwell, our:

thinking can change
memory and concentration is not as good
moods change and we may become more anxious, sad or irritable
behaviour changes, often around eating, sleeping and personal hygiene
Most mental health problems affect all of these
we may be unable to do the things they could do when they were well
we may use unhealthy coping strategies such as misusing alcohol or drugs
we sometimes experience angry outbursts
The language we use when talking about mental health and wellbeing is critical to our understanding of people’s experience of mental illness. We often use labeling as a way of fitting people into boxes that we do not quite understand.

It’s all too easy to let mental health and wellbeing slip to the bottom of our ‘to-do’ lists, especially when we’re adapting to a period of change. But taking care of our bodies and minds is an important way to help manage stress and maintain our health, so whether you choose to meditate or work out in the comfort of your own home, go for a walk in nature, or simply read your favourite book, make sure you create time and space for yourself to unplug and decompress.

Health and wellbeing are unique to each individual, but we’ve pulled together a few resources which we’ve found useful, and hope that you find them helpful too. Depression can be a dangerous mental state. If someone you know is experiencing depression, it is important to report it to a counselor. Here are three ways to identify depression.

  1. Sleeping habits – When someone is depressed, they usually sleep for extended periods of time, sometimes not leaving the bed for days, skipping activities such as work or social obligations. This lack of desire to get up can often be associated with depression.
  2. Eating habits – Eating habits can increase or decrease during depression. They can either refuse to eat or use food as a substitute to compensate for the depression. This is usually an extreme case, in which binging or anorexia may be taking place.
  3. Social habits – Participation in social activities is usually significantly reduced. Combined with excessive sleeping, a lack of activity with friends and family can be a strong sign of depression.

Source: Betterhelp.com
Life can be scary, confusing, or upsetting when you’re experiencing emotional, cognitive, and physical changes. You might even ask yourself, “Do I have a mental illness?” It’s a natural question, especially since, according to NAMI statistics, 1 in 5 American adults had some type of mental disorders in 2018. Getting a diagnosis from a professional is essential but learning about mental disorders may be an excellent first step towards improving your mental health. The following list contains many of the most common mental illnesses and their symptoms.

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Mood Disorders
The APA Dictionary of Psychology defines mood disorder as “a psychiatric condition in which the principal feature is a prolonged, pervasive emotional disturbance.” Mental disorders included in this mental health category affect not only your emotions but also your thoughts and your physical functioning.

Major Depression
Major depression is one of the mental disorders that is characterized by persistent sadness and other symptoms. However, you won’t have manic or hypomanic symptoms if you have this mental health condition.

Emotions – sad, hopeless, guilty, irritability, anxiety, emptiness, loss of interest in things once enjoyed

Thoughts – trouble concentrating and making decisions, suicidal thoughts

Physical – appetite and weight changes, unexplained aches and pains, insomnia or sleeping too much, fatigue

Persistent Depressive Disorder
Persistent depressive disorder is a mental health issue in which you experience symptoms of depression most days for at least two years.

Bipolar Disorder
Several mental disorders come under the umbrella of bipolar disorder. If you have one of these mental health conditions, you will have depressive episodes with any of the depression signs. You will also have manic or hypomanic symptoms. Manic symptoms include:

Emotions – upbeat, wired, expansive, euphoric

Thoughts – grandiose or racing thoughts, distractibility, excessive self-confidence, lack of judgment, extreme risk-taking

Physical – increased energy or agitation, needing less sleep or food

Postpartum Depression
You might have this mental disorder anytime from pregnancy to a year after your baby’s birth. In addition to other depression symptoms, you might experience excessive crying, withdrawing from family, difficulty bonding with the new baby, and feelings that you’re a bad mother. If the mental health condition is severe, you might even have trouble caring for your baby.

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder
More severe than PMS, symptoms of this mental health condition include mood swings, irritability, and other signs of depression, along with cramps, bloating, pain, and headaches. The symptoms start about a week to ten days before your period and go away after your period begins.

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Anxiety Disorders
These mental disorders come with excessive worry, fear, and nervousness. Yet each mental health condition is unique, and often relatively easy to recognize once you know the symptoms.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder
GAD is one of the mental disorders marked by worry and tension. Its symptoms are often unrelated to what’s happening and seem to come out of nowhere to affect your mental health.

Feelings – restlessness, being on edge, irritability

Thoughts – excessive worry, unrealistic views, trouble concentrating

Physical – muscle tension, headaches, sweating, nausea, needing to go to the bathroom often, tiredness, sleep problems, trembling, startling easily

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Obsessive-compulsive disorder includes several mental disorders. Each of these mental health problems includes both obsessive and compulsive symptoms.

Obsessive – fear of dirt or contamination, doubting, uncertainty, needing things to be symmetrical, thoughts of losing control or harming yourself, unwanted aggressive, sexual, or religious thoughts.

Compulsive – excessive washing and cleaning, checking, counting, strict adherence to a routine, needing constant reassurance.

Panic Disorder
Panic attacks are the main feature of this mental health condition. Many of the symptoms seem physical, yet the state isn’t physically dangerous.

Thoughts and Feelings – sense of impending doom, fear of death, feeling of unreality

Physical – nausea, chest pain, headache, lightheadedness, numbness or tingling, shortness of breath, rapid heart rate, trembling, chills, sweating, abdominal cramping

Phobias
Phobias are mental disorders in which you feel extreme fear when something triggers the phobia. The trigger could be heights, snakes, closed-in spaces, or a range of other possibilities. Symptoms include:

Feelings – fear of dying, losing control, or fainting, sense of being detached from your body

Physical – unsteadiness, lightheadedness, dizziness, choking sensation, pounding heart or fast heartbeat, chest pain or tightness, sweating, hot or cold flushes, shortness of breath, nausea, tingling, trembling

Agoraphobia
Agoraphobia is a mental health challenge in which you have such intense anxiety symptoms that you avoid going to or even thinking about places and situations that bring up feelings like helplessness, embarrassment, or a sense of being threatened.

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Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is a frustrating mental health problem for anyone who would like to or needs to interact with people socially. Symptoms include:

Fears – of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated, of strangers, that others will notice you look anxious, of physical symptoms others might notice

Behaviors – avoiding speaking to others or being the center of attention, analyzing your social performance after the fact

Physical – blushing, trembling, sweating, fast heartbeat, nausea, breathlessness, dizziness, blank mind, muscle tension

Eating Disorders
Eating disorders are mental disorders that affect both your physical and psychological health. They all include intense feelings and behaviors related to eating.

Anorexia Nervosa
Anorexia nervosa is one of these mental disorders. It is a mental health problem in which you eat very little and typically lose weight at a rate that is alarming to your friends and family. You can find a full list of symptoms at the National Eating Disorder Association. Here are a few of the most common.

Feelings and Behaviors – preoccupied with food, dieting, and weight; talking about being fat and needing to diet, saying you’re not hungry, having food rituals, unrealistic body image, wearing multi-layered baggy clothes

Physical Signs – dramatic weight loss, stomach cramps, menstrual irregularities, sleep problems, feeling cold constantly, dry skin and nails, cavities, thinning hair, muscle weakness, and poor wound healing and immune response

Bulimia
Another of these mental disorders is bulimia, in which you eat and sometimes binge on food but then purge in an attempt to get rid of the calories you consumed. If you have this mental health problem, you might have an intense fear of gaining weight, be worried about your body shape and size, eat large amounts of food at one time, force yourself to vomit and fast between binges.

Binge Eating
Another mental health issue people sometimes have is binge eating. In this disorder, you eat large amounts of food in a short time, but there are other signs as well.

Feelings – that you’re out of control, depressed, disgusted with yourself, ashamed, or upset

Behaviors – eating when you’re full, eating fast while binging, eating alone or secretly, dieting without weight loss

Trauma-Related Disorders
When something extremely distressing happens to you, you might have mental health problems in this category. Trauma-related mental disorders are reactions to terrifying, disturbing, or life-threatening events.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Stressful events, like being in combat or being assaulted, can trigger PTSD. This mental health condition can last for months or years if left untreated. Symptoms include intrusive memories, nightmares, avoiding anything that reminds you of the event, negative thoughts and feelings, being easily startled, trouble sleeping, irritability, anger, aggression, and feeling emotionally disconnected or numb.

Acute Stress Disorder
Acute stress disorder is one of the mental health conditions in which you feel symptoms of anxiety. Signs usually come up after a traumatic event and last for up to a month. In addition to anxiety symptoms, you might also feel numb or a sense of unreality, or have vivid flashbacks or difficulty remembering the event.

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Impulse Control Disorders
If you have these mental disorders, your behavior is so out of control that you can cause harm to yourself and others. These behaviors go against laws, societal norms, and best practices, yet you engage in them without thinking.

Kleptomania
Kleptomania is a mental health problem in which you steal things you don’t need. You might have increasing tension just before you take something and feel a sense of relief afterward.

Pyromania
If you have pyromania, you’re fascinated with fire and may set things on fire, often harming others or destroying property in the process.

Intermittent Explosive Disorder
Mental disorders like intermittent explosive disorder can cause harm to others as well as impact your mental health. Brief flashes of anger and violence characterize this mental health issue. Additionally, these outbursts are all out of proportion to the events that trigger them. An everyday annoyance can set off a fit of rage.

Psychotic Disorders
Mental health conditions in the psychotic category are mental disorders in which you have a break with reality. Some of these mental health problems are chronic, while others are short-lived.

Schizophrenia
Schizophrenia is one of the severe chronic psychiatric disorders. Symptoms usually start between the ages of 16 and 30. They include positive signs (things that happen) and negative symptoms (things that are absent or decreased).

Positive Symptoms – hallucinations, delusions, dysfunctional ways of thinking, movement disorders

Negative Symptoms – reduced facial expressions, decreased feelings of pleasure in the everyday, trouble starting or continuing with activities, speaking very little

Schizoaffective Disorder
This mental health condition is a mix of schizophrenic disorder and mood disorder. The two types of schizoaffective disorder are manic type and depressive type. In addition to manic or depressed, and schizophrenic symptoms, someone with this mental health issue might have incoherent speech, bizarre behavior, trouble functioning at work, school, or in social situations, and problems with grooming.

Brief Psychotic Disorder
If you’re under extreme stress, you might develop brief psychotic disorder very rapidly. This temporary mental health problem can have intense symptoms, including hallucinations and delusions. Although you return to your normal functioning shortly afterward, the time when you’re having psychotic symptoms can be dangerous to you and others around you.

Personality Disorders

Personality disorders are mental health problems that last for many years or even for your entire life. When you have one of these mental health disorders, your thoughts, emotions, and actions are dysfunctional and may bring harm to your relationship and other aspects of your life. Here are some of those mental health disorders.

Narcissistic
Those with narcissistic personality disorder have little empathy for others. They’re self-centered and have an excessively elevated self-image. You might think you have extraordinary powers, talents, and beauty. You might expect others to praise you continually if you have this mental health issue.

Borderline
People with borderline personality disorder tend to be impulsive, have unstable self-image and intense relationships, have mood swings and suicidal behavior, fear to be alone, and may have transitory paranoia. This mental health problem can make your life feel like a whirlwind of emotion.

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Avoidant
People with this mental health condition are extremely sensitive to rejection and criticism. They avoid interpersonal contact and new activities. They may be very shy and feel inferior to others. Their mental health suffers, partly because they become so isolated from others.

Paranoid
If you have a paranoid personality disorder, you distrust and are suspicious of others. You erroneously think that others are trying to hurt you or that they’re untrustworthy. You hear innocent remarks and view them as personal attacks. You hold grudges and may become hostile when you believe others have insulted you. When others suggest you might need mental health treatment, you might be suspicious of their motives.

Dependent
When you have a dependent personality disorder, you might feel excessively dependent on others. You might be clingy or submissive. You might fear to be on your own, having to take care of yourself, disagreeing with others, or disapproval. You might have low self-confidence and difficulty doing activities on your own. Even if your relationship partner abuses you, you might put up with it rather than going out on your own. And if the relationship ends despite this, you might feel the need to jump into another relationship immediately.

Addiction and Substance Abuse Disorders

Substance abuse disorders can be very distressing and can impact your life in profound ways. These conditions aren’t merely due to a lack of willpower or not trying. They are significant mental health diseases.

Alcohol, Illegal or Prescription Drugs
Sometimes it’s hard to tell if you have a mental health problem when you use alcohol or other addictive substances. After all, many people drink socially and harmlessly. However, there are several signs that you might need help with substance abuse disorder.

You might feel you need to use the substance many times every day. You need more overtime to achieve the same effects. You might steal to get the substance and always be concerned about keeping a supply of it on hand. You try to quit using it, but you are unsuccessful. And, anytime you do stop using it, you have withdrawal symptoms.

What to Do If You Think You Might Have a Mental Disorder

If you recognize any of these mental health symptoms in yourself, you might wonder, “What now?” First, think about how these mental health problems are affecting your life and the lives of those around you.

Then look for a counselor or therapist to help you. We are always available @ TheSolaceZone.com

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