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Never knew i will get my confidence back.

August 30, 2023 by John Steve 2 Comments

My name is Stephen, my life in the university was a sad one but i thank God for the help i got from confidants Solace Zone.

NEVER KNEW I WILL BE THIS CONFIDENT

This is my story…
Few years back, i found myself swimming in the thought of impossibility, i am the first son in my family but my confidence as a man is beyond average.
I think my lack of confidence was caused by my parents,always shouting at me and never gave me this sense of ‘i can do it alone, i always depend on them to provide and tell me what to do, to the point of having to wait for them to do some things which i should do on my own like every other kids out there.

when i got admitted into the university, my parents took me to school, processed everything, i was the mummy and daddy boy, yes it was love, training and also protection but it really affected my confidence and created these spirit of assumption in me.

I never knew the effect of all their actions until i started staying alone and mingling with other children in the university, i discovered how unsocial i was, always lazy and needed someone to help me do things for me, this mindset affected my studies and social life, i will also tell you that i do visit home almost every weekend and my parents never saw anything bad about it, infact they are the one who want me back during weekends.

something happened both in my academic, love life, social life, financial life and others and i decided to get help through confidants Solace Zone.
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Assumption and lack of confidence..

There is always a cause for assumption and lack of confidence but there is also help.

Just try and dont just assume, a lot of us failed even before we try because we assume and because we lack confidence.

Our mind have so much role to play in our success, your actions is being guided by our mind and succes is derived when you put to action all the ideas and plans you have.

why not ask or try it out first and see if what you assumed is right or wrong?
By asking and trying, you will get the facts that will help you do things rightly without mistakes.

Do you know that many intelligent people are limited because they lack confidence and most confident people are limited because they assume too.

Assumption and lack of confidence have a role to play for our success in life.
Think about this and don’t forget to comment your feelings, share , follow us and subscribe for counselling or consultation if you need any.

Filed Under: Real life stories, Uncategorized

Why do some people feel not loved even when they are with the right person.

August 27, 2023 by John Steve Leave a Comment

My name is Cynthia, i am 24 years old, i have a boyfriend who really love me, he had given me many reasons that shows he really love me. Few weeks back, he proposed to me but i declined, i know he loves me but i am not feeling loved, i think i need help.

Why do people feel not loved even when they are with the right one

There are so many factors that can cause this, it is advisable you consult a counselor in our platform but before then, read through..

Feelings of not being loved, even when with the right person, can stem from various factors. One possible reason is personal insecurities or a lack of self-love, which may lead individuals to doubt the authenticity of their partner’s feelings. Past experiences, such as childhood traumas or previous unhealthy relationships, can also contribute to these feelings.

Additionally, communication and love languages play a crucial role. People have different ways of expressing and receiving love, so if their partner’s actions or words aren’t aligned with their specific love language, it can create a disconnect and make them feel unloved.

External factors like stress, work pressure, or other life challenges can also negatively impact one’s perception of being loved, as it may overshadow the love and care their partner is actually showing.

It’s important in these situations to openly communicate and discuss feelings with the partner, seek professional help if needed, and work on building self-esteem and self-worth to create a stronger foundation within oneself and the relationship.

We can help you get it right through counseling, can we help?

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How healthy is masturbation.

August 27, 2023 by John Steve Leave a Comment

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My story

Masturbation

my name is Joshua
It was 6:30am in the morning when the urge for sex was all over me, i have had sex only once and the memories keep playing in my mind, i was alone, really need to get over all these but couldn’t, had to open my phone and search about stuff that was in my head, i started seeing things that i haven’t seen before.

The information i got from the internet made me to start rubbing my dick with my hands, jerking it and doing all sort of things to the point i saw myself releasing semen, it was a good feeling even though i pittied myself after doing it.

Few days later, i had the same urge and i was tempted to do the exact thing i did before, i never knew i was about entering into the world of addiction, it was just for the satisfaction i said to myself, it is best so that i will not contact STD or get any woman Pregnant at this early stage, so many things was on my head that encouraged me to do it. I did it ,i keep on repeating this same activities until i can’t stay a day without masturbating for like five to six times.

It got all over me, i discovered i am addicted to it and i needed help, alot of things that happened as a result of that which includes, not lasting long on bed when having sex with women, discoverd my weight is gone, my desire for sex always comes up at a glance or any trigger and i have no self control, lost my self confidence and so many others.

One day i decided to get help and this decision came when i was caught masturbating in a public place, never knew what i was doing until i was seen by a friend, thank God it was only her that saw me, she advised me to get help, he recommended i seek for a counselor from Confidants Solace Zone, i am happy i listened,i am a better me now.

Counseling and therapy helped me, my counselor lead me through the healing process, it was not easy but i overcomed it and my sexual life is balanced.

Everyone has different reasons of being addicted to something and many think it is the end, with my experience, i am boldly telling you, there is help, just seek for professional help from Confidants Solace Zone and get help.

About Masturbation.

Masturbation is when an individual stimulates their genitals for sexual pleasure, which may or may not lead to orgasm. Masturbation is common among men and women

Masturbation a natural and safe way to explore your body, feel pleasure, and release built-up sexual tension. It occurs among people of all backgrounds, genders, and races.

In fact, one study in older adults estimated that between 27 to 40 percentTrusted Source of women and 41 to 65 percent of men reported masturbating within the past month.
Despite the myths, there are actually no physically harmful side effects of masturbation.
Sometimes, excessive or compulsive masturbation may be considered harmful or lead to other mental health concerns.

Typically, masturbation is a fun, natural, and healthy act.
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If you want a loyal woman, hear this.

August 26, 2023 by John Steve Leave a Comment

Women are loyal to their feelings, no matter how much you invest in them, if they feeling is not there , or if the feeling is gone or if she is attracted to somene else forget it, these feeling is propelled by their instant needs, wants and expectations.
You have to always adjust and sometimes it will take alot of sacrifices for you to make her have stable feeling for you.

you may also be with her for many years, contributing your own best, once there is a gap that makes her unhappy ,she is likely to leave you for someone that can fill up this gaps except if there is no alternative or she is scared and considerate base on background, societal ,or religion expectation.

It doesn’t mean they are bad but they are trying to satisfy their immediate desire and goals and on trying to do that they became inhumane.

Men are loyal to their weakness, if you complete them, if you make their weakness unnoticeable then it will be hard for them to replace or forget you but when you don’t, they keep on seeing reasons to find alternative.

According to okafor Johnsteve Udochukwu, the only thing that keeps a relationship or marriage is the reason you give to yourself.

The two gender needs only one thing to work things out and that thing is wisdom.

It is Only God that gives wisdom.

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Filed Under: Marriage & Relationships, Uncategorized

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAVING SEX AND MAKING LOVE:

May 17, 2022 by John Steve Leave a Comment

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  1. Having sex requires only horny people. Making love requires two people in love with each other
  2. On the night of the honeymoon, a couple makes love, they don’t have sex. To understand the ideal we aspire to in intimacy, just look at how much value we place on the night the marriage is consumated
  3. Two people having sex can fail to kiss; but when making love, kissing must be involved
  4. Having sex can lead to regret. Making love never leads to regret
  5. After making love, affectionate words are spoken. After having sex, people dress up and walk away
  6. Having sex is an activity. Making love is an experience
  7. Having sex can make you feel dirty, cheap, evil, used. Making love will always make you feel full, happy, loved up
  8. Having sex is all about the orgasm. Making love is about intimacy
  9. In affairs, people have sex, they don’t make love. Unfaithfulness has nothing to do with making love
  10. People have sex because of lust. People make love because of love
  11. Having sex can happen with many partners, that’s why players play. Making love is exclusive
  12. Having sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies. Making love can lead to unplanned or planned pregnancies, but never unwanted pregnancies. Making love is done in a setup of love and commitment, you are building a future together, the child becomes a fruit of your love
  13. Having sex is all about the physical: the boobs, the bum, the thighs, the man’s tool, the tightness. Making love goes beyond the body, right to the heart
  14. Having sex is all about the performance: did you scream loud enough, did it last long enough, is he big enough, did she get wet enough, was it better than with my ex? Making love is about being close. Having sex puts pressure on how you perform, making love eases the pressure to give you affection and pleasure
  15. Having sex leads to boredom, you get bored and look for a new sex target once you have tasted. Making love is permanent, a meal that fills you up, you don’t taste, you feast
  16. Having sex is about giving it a test drive. Making love is not a test, you don’t make love out of curiosity
  17. Having sex is done in secret, that’s why many say “Keep it on the down low, no one has to know”. Making love is done with pride, the world knows you two belong exclusively to each other
  18. Love songs of the past used to sing about making love, they touched our hearts. It is difficult to find a real love song these days, much of what they sing about is mere sex; and we wonder why so many of us feel lost, empty and hurt
  19. Having sex leads to shallow bonds. Making love leads to a deeper connection
  20. A woman loves it when her hubby tells her “I want to make love to you” and not “I want to have sex with you. The former makes her feel most special
  21. A man keen on having sex sees women as sex objects, a man keen on making love sees her as a woman, a queen. A king makes love to his queen, an immature male sexes women and brags about how many women he has slept with or how the trophy woman fell for him easily in bed
  22. The orgasm when making love is sweetest; it touches your entire being: mind, body, spirit, heart, emotions and soul. click https://thesolacezone.com/match/ to get the love you deserve and make friends.

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