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Not fulfilling your purpose in life can hinder someone from actualizing his or her purpose.

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Do you know that, you may be the reason why you have not become more than you are now or who you desire to be.

It maybe that you have not actualize a purpose, everyone has a purpose in this life, let assume you are teacher and your purpose is to Educate and train Medical doctors, engineers, lawyers etc. If you fail to do that, how do you expect those young ones to fulfill their purpose.

you may also think the benefit is just for others not knowing you will benefit also.
The lawyer you trained today may defend you tomorrow, if you don’t actualize your purpose now,you may be the reason why someone have not actualize their purpose.
If you help someone now, that person may help someone else tomorrow and the person will help another person who may in return help you without you knowing that your help to someone brought that opportunity or help.

Discover your purpose and make it happen, someone is really waiting for you, please stop delaying, as you are delaying yourself, you are delaying someone else.
It is true that God can bring someone else to fulfill your purpose because more than one person can have same purpose on earth but not the exact time, if you fail to utilise your time, you may not get it back but if you utilise your time now, you will definitely be happy and you will certainly meets your needs by actualizing your purpose.

Now ask yourself, what’s is your purpose or calling and how can you discover it, the answer to this question is in one of our videos and write up, please follow us on all our handle
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Never knew i will get my confidence back.

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My name is Stephen, my life in the university was a sad one but i thank God for the help i got from confidants Solace Zone.

NEVER KNEW I WILL BE THIS CONFIDENT

This is my story…
Few years back, i found myself swimming in the thought of impossibility, i am the first son in my family but my confidence as a man is beyond average.
I think my lack of confidence was caused by my parents,always shouting at me and never gave me this sense of ‘i can do it alone, i always depend on them to provide and tell me what to do, to the point of having to wait for them to do some things which i should do on my own like every other kids out there.

when i got admitted into the university, my parents took me to school, processed everything, i was the mummy and daddy boy, yes it was love, training and also protection but it really affected my confidence and created these spirit of assumption in me.

I never knew the effect of all their actions until i started staying alone and mingling with other children in the university, i discovered how unsocial i was, always lazy and needed someone to help me do things for me, this mindset affected my studies and social life, i will also tell you that i do visit home almost every weekend and my parents never saw anything bad about it, infact they are the one who want me back during weekends.

something happened both in my academic, love life, social life, financial life and others and i decided to get help through confidants Solace Zone.
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Assumption and lack of confidence..

There is always a cause for assumption and lack of confidence but there is also help.

Just try and dont just assume, a lot of us failed even before we try because we assume and because we lack confidence.

Our mind have so much role to play in our success, your actions is being guided by our mind and succes is derived when you put to action all the ideas and plans you have.

why not ask or try it out first and see if what you assumed is right or wrong?
By asking and trying, you will get the facts that will help you do things rightly without mistakes.

Do you know that many intelligent people are limited because they lack confidence and most confident people are limited because they assume too.

Assumption and lack of confidence have a role to play for our success in life.
Think about this and don’t forget to comment your feelings, share , follow us and subscribe for counselling or consultation if you need any.

If you want a loyal woman, hear this.

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Women are loyal to their feelings, no matter how much you invest in them, if they feeling is not there , or if the feeling is gone or if she is attracted to somene else forget it, these feeling is propelled by their instant needs, wants and expectations.
You have to always adjust and sometimes it will take alot of sacrifices for you to make her have stable feeling for you.

you may also be with her for many years, contributing your own best, once there is a gap that makes her unhappy ,she is likely to leave you for someone that can fill up this gaps except if there is no alternative or she is scared and considerate base on background, societal ,or religion expectation.

It doesn’t mean they are bad but they are trying to satisfy their immediate desire and goals and on trying to do that they became inhumane.

Men are loyal to their weakness, if you complete them, if you make their weakness unnoticeable then it will be hard for them to replace or forget you but when you don’t, they keep on seeing reasons to find alternative.

According to okafor Johnsteve Udochukwu, the only thing that keeps a relationship or marriage is the reason you give to yourself.

The two gender needs only one thing to work things out and that thing is wisdom.

It is Only God that gives wisdom.

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THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAVING SEX AND MAKING LOVE:

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  1. Having sex requires only horny people. Making love requires two people in love with each other
  2. On the night of the honeymoon, a couple makes love, they don’t have sex. To understand the ideal we aspire to in intimacy, just look at how much value we place on the night the marriage is consumated
  3. Two people having sex can fail to kiss; but when making love, kissing must be involved
  4. Having sex can lead to regret. Making love never leads to regret
  5. After making love, affectionate words are spoken. After having sex, people dress up and walk away
  6. Having sex is an activity. Making love is an experience
  7. Having sex can make you feel dirty, cheap, evil, used. Making love will always make you feel full, happy, loved up
  8. Having sex is all about the orgasm. Making love is about intimacy
  9. In affairs, people have sex, they don’t make love. Unfaithfulness has nothing to do with making love
  10. People have sex because of lust. People make love because of love
  11. Having sex can happen with many partners, that’s why players play. Making love is exclusive
  12. Having sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies. Making love can lead to unplanned or planned pregnancies, but never unwanted pregnancies. Making love is done in a setup of love and commitment, you are building a future together, the child becomes a fruit of your love
  13. Having sex is all about the physical: the boobs, the bum, the thighs, the man’s tool, the tightness. Making love goes beyond the body, right to the heart
  14. Having sex is all about the performance: did you scream loud enough, did it last long enough, is he big enough, did she get wet enough, was it better than with my ex? Making love is about being close. Having sex puts pressure on how you perform, making love eases the pressure to give you affection and pleasure
  15. Having sex leads to boredom, you get bored and look for a new sex target once you have tasted. Making love is permanent, a meal that fills you up, you don’t taste, you feast
  16. Having sex is about giving it a test drive. Making love is not a test, you don’t make love out of curiosity
  17. Having sex is done in secret, that’s why many say “Keep it on the down low, no one has to know”. Making love is done with pride, the world knows you two belong exclusively to each other
  18. Love songs of the past used to sing about making love, they touched our hearts. It is difficult to find a real love song these days, much of what they sing about is mere sex; and we wonder why so many of us feel lost, empty and hurt
  19. Having sex leads to shallow bonds. Making love leads to a deeper connection
  20. A woman loves it when her hubby tells her “I want to make love to you” and not “I want to have sex with you. The former makes her feel most special
  21. A man keen on having sex sees women as sex objects, a man keen on making love sees her as a woman, a queen. A king makes love to his queen, an immature male sexes women and brags about how many women he has slept with or how the trophy woman fell for him easily in bed
  22. The orgasm when making love is sweetest; it touches your entire being: mind, body, spirit, heart, emotions and soul. click https://thesolacezone.com/match/ to get the love you deserve and make friends.

Child Abuse.

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Childhood Abuse.
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Many boys have been abused by one aunty during childhood and the question is ,does it have after effect? yes it has a psychological and social effect.

One of my clients was narrating how he was abuse by his aunty as a little boy, he said that any time his mother is not around, his aunty will buy biscuit for him and ask him to come and bath before she wil give him the biscuits,the innocent boy will accept and remove his clothes , his aunty will carry him on his chest and be rubbing her breast to his body, at a point, her aunty will insert his dick inside her pu.y and will be moaning deeply, according to him,she always do this to him,like almost every day his parents are not around.

He can’t speak to his parents because he is afraid of them amd he always isolate himself from others.

It was when he got to a particular age that he discovered that her aunty was actually having sex with him and this really made him to start having urge for sex at early stage to the point that he even do have the thought of having sex with his sisters.

According to him, there have been a lot of damage in his life and he needs help.

Parents please watch closer and be close to your children, engage them in a deep conversation and also hire a counselor when you notice unsual attitude or behavior from your children.

Thank God for Confidants Solace Zone, an organization that has professional mental health counselors and Volunteers in different helping professions who are ready to help you get better.

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