The Solace Zone

  • Home
  • Get Professional Counselling
  • Become a Counsellor
  • Contact Us
  • Login

When you want to feel good

January 19, 2025 by John Steve Leave a Comment

You may not know this

The body needs dopamine for you to feel good,get motivated ,feel relaxed and satisfaction.

It also has a major role to play in controlling memory,mood, sleep, learning, concentration, movement and other body functions.

Some drugs and substance can stimulate the release of these hormones and most people see themselves taking alcohol and different drugs to the point of being addicted to it, not because they are comfortable with the money they spend to get those substance but because of the feeling they derive after taken it .

The dopamine is produced in several areas of the brain,

It is unfortunate that some don’t know that there are other alternatives that can help in the release of dopamine that will aid us to feel better and spend less money on alcohol or drugs.

I will leave you with these few

Do you know that

✓Sexual intimacy triggers the release of Dopamine (When the two sex agrees)

✓Hugging
✓Listening to music
✓Meditation
✓ Exercise
✓Money and rewards
✓ Getting enough rest
✓Going out or staying indoors and watching movies or comedy
✓Managing stress and many more

If you can adopt some healthy skilss on how you can make your body release dopamine it will aid you as an adults and as a child.

Students learns better when they are relax and the dopamine can help them achieve it.

You should also endeavor to seek for counseling if you find yourself stressed or under pressure.

You deserve to be happy
for therapy, consultation and matchmaking click and get help.

Filed Under: Uncategorized

When your goal seems impossible.

January 19, 2025 by John Steve Leave a Comment

Dear friends,

Over the years, I’ve noticed that many of you have achievable goals, but lack the motivation to pursue them. As a Therapist and Counsellor, I’ve discovered that understanding oneself is key to unlocking success.

A Real-Life Example
Let me illustrate this with the story of my two friends, Mr. Theophilus and Mr. Kelvin. Both had goals they wanted to achieve, but felt overwhelmed and discouraged. During our conversation, I shared a simple yet effective strategy that helped them regain momentum.

Understanding Your Motivations
To achieve your goals, it’s essential to understand what motivates and demotivates you. Take time to reflect on your values, strengths, and weaknesses. Ask yourself:

What drives me to take action?
What are the things that hold me back?
What are my long-term goals, and how do they align with my values?

Setting SMART Goals
Ensure your goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound (SMART). Break down large goals into smaller, manageable tasks to maintain momentum.

The Power of Accountability
If you’re someone who thrives on external validation, share your goals with trusted friends or family members. This can provide an added motivation to stay on track. However, if you’re someone who feels discouraged when others know about your goals, it’s perfectly fine to keep them private.

Understanding Yourself
Self-awareness is crucial to achieving your goals. Take time to understand your:

Strengths and weaknesses
Learning style and preferences
Emotional triggers and coping mechanisms

If you’re struggling to understand yourself or need guidance on achieving your goals, consider booking a session with me. Together, we can unlock your potential and create a personalized plan for success.

Filed Under: Uncategorized

My first sex

April 21, 2024 by John Steve Leave a Comment

Filed Under: Uncategorized

Family Counselling and its important.

September 26, 2023 by John Steve Leave a Comment

we matchmake here, to get matchmake. please click this https://thesolacezone.com/match/

WHY IS FAMILY COUNSELING IMPORTANT?

Firstly, the importance of Counseling can’t be over emphasized, it’s important extends to every spheres of Life. But then, today we’ll be dealing on the importance of Family Counseling.

In other to build an atmosphere of clarity, it’s important to understand what Family Counseling is all about. Family Counseling is a method to develop and maintain healthy and functional family relationships.
According to the family system theory, it’s vital to note that, changes in one Family member will influence changes in other parts of the family ( and this can be positively or negatively).

Hence, Family Counseling or family therapy aims to address Psychological, behavioural and emotional issues that causes family problems. Yeah, there are so many things that go on within the wall of a family and family Counseling is a sure guide out of it.

There are different forms of family therapy, different family problems may require specific types of Counseling.
briefly, let’s discuss some few types of Family Counseling.

some Family Counselors offers home visit or online sessions. These could provide families with More Comfort than office based meetings. However, other families may prefer Counseling outside of the home environment.
They are several types of Family Counseling

💥 FUNCTIONAL FAMILY THERAPY: This typically focuses on families with a child or an adolescent with complex emotional or behavioral problems.
it helps families learn strategies to deal with the child’s behaviour and improve family functioning.

💥 BRIEF STRATEGIC FAMILY THERAPY: it aims to change the patterns of interactions between family members.

💥 STRUCTURAL THERAPY: it manages problems that arise due to the family structure, it aim to achieve a functioning and balanced family hierarchy with appropriate boundaries between members.

💥 MULTI-SYSTEMIC THERAPY: This aims to address any behavioral and emotional problems of children and adolescent.
it also focuses on broader issues with the child’s behaviour.

💥 TRAN-GENERATIONAL THERAPY: This involves the therapist examining interactions across generations, the aim is to understand how past responses to challenges influences the family’s current interactions or problems.
it’s very useful when issues and behaviours patterns persist across generations.

one is eager to know, if family Counseling is for everyone, well, family Counseling or therapy may not be for everyone, it may be for those who want to improve family relationships or treat mental health conditions from a family system’s perspective.

oops, someone is already asking, how can I get a family Counselor 😔?
well, Ask no more, cause THE CONFIDANTS SOLACE ZONE, where a group of concerned professional counsellors and volunteers who are into online and physical Counselling, outreach and humanitarian services. They work with different helping professions for clients referral, they have been known for helping the less privileged, depressed, suicidal, community service and other Psychological or mental issues at it’s early stage.

We organize counselling camps for groups and individuals who are at the edge of their mind. Sensitization of the public and individuals on the need for counseling, mental health awareness, speaking out and curtailing the rate of abuse, suicide, affective disorder ,sex related issues and other minor/major psychological issues that may be as a result of stress, past experience, rape, guilt, unhappy marriage or relationship, vocational or occupational issues, educational problems and addiction.

If at the end you feel better and are happy, then we are satisfied.

sign up now with the the SOLACE ZONE for counselling and matchmaking through

Match

Perfect. C. A. N

Filed Under: Blog, Marriage & Relationships, Uncategorized

MINDFULNESS

September 13, 2023 by John Steve Leave a Comment

MINDFULNESS
According to the publication made on healthdirect website @ healthdirect.gov.au
Mindfulness is paying full attention to what is going on in you and outside you, moment by moment, without judgment. It means you observe your thoughts, feelings, and the sensations of taste, touch, smell, sight and sound. You are also fully aware of your surroundings.
Mindfulness involves paying attention to what is going on inside and outside ourselves, moment by moment.
It’s easy to stop noticing the world around us. It’s also easy to lose touch with the way our bodies are feeling and to end up living “in our heads” – caught up in our thoughts without stopping to notice how those thoughts are driving our emotions and behavior.
Mindfulness does not try to quiet your mind or control your experience — you just observe what is happening in the moment.
However, anyone can practice mindfulness to improve their self-awareness
One of the Program for Ignatian Mindfulness, framed by the Ignatian charisms of care of the whole person and people for others and with others, the Program for Ignatian Mindfulness unites the concepts of mindfulness and discernment. Saint Ignatius calls us to surrender to more fully receive love and grace. The three pillars of the program are:
Pause: Creating a space without judgments or attachments to appreciate the whole person
Presence: Bringing attention to the moment by noticing one’s thoughts and surroundings
Peace: Imagining empathy, and compassion for self and others through contemplation and wellbeing.
Mindfulness promotes meditation, even though these two terms have their similarities, we should cover what separates them.

Mindfulness requires us to be aware of what’s around us and how our bodies feel. Meditation is a practice that reels in our thoughts to calm the mind
According to Sofia Carozza on one of his articles titled Catholic Schools and the Values of Mindfulness, mindfulness meditations typically involve sitting calmly and attending to the breath—not fighting one’s thoughts, but simply drawing one’s attention back to the present moment.
Catholic schools, whose highest task is to open the souls of their students to the life of God, have an urgent responsibility to offer a positive and coherent account of reality, as well as the means to learn it. When this is absent, the young person is vulnerable to implicit formation in the metaphysical worldviews that underlie the popular practices of the time. Such is the case with the mindfulness movement, whose uncritical embrace can produce three devastating losses in the life of a student.

The first loss incurred by the uncritical practice of mindfulness is the weakening of judgment.

The baseline cognitive state of most human beings is a mental chatter that includes not just observations but conclusions about the meaning and value of what one thinks and observes. To receive the information and act on it appropriately, one first needs to evaluate the truth and goodness of the thoughts, considering their content and rejecting what is false or worthless. Detached awareness may be a helpful first step toward that end, especially for those whose internal life is agitated or chaotic. But if this awareness remains non-judgmental, the mind and heart are abandoned to the anarchy of the instincts and hampered in their pursuit of the good.
As a student, staff, priest, religious, management, father, mother, aunty, sibling or any status, we really need to be mindful of our life, we shouldn’t wait till something happens just like during the covid 19 pandemic, institutions of all kinds endorsed the practice of “mindfulness” as the antidote to the uncertainty and insecurity it has engendered , it also expected we apply the practice of mindfulness in our environment and this practice will help us to guide our mental health and in guiding our mental health we will be able to think right, feel right.

Hey, I’m using Telegram to chat. Join me! Download it here: https://telegram.org/dl
Okafor Johnsteve udochukwu

Filed Under: Uncategorized

  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • Next Page »

About Us

Who we are
What we do
How it works
FAQS

Therapy

Depression
Suicide
Substance Abuse
Rape

Posts & Advice

  • Addiction/Abuse (3)
  • Blog (7)
  • love (1)
  • Marriage & Relationships (10)
  • Mental Health (3)
  • Real life stories (5)
  • School & Education (3)
  • Sex (5)
  • Suicide (1)
  • Uncategorized (14)

Reach Out

Phone
+234 816 933 9653
Email
ReachOut@TheSolaceZone.com
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
Loading

· The Solace Zone · Copyright © 2025 ·
Powered By: Ophanim Solutions