It was as if all the men in my life perceived me as sexually attractive, none had the intention of having me as his wife or fiancé.

This had been happening for a long time, such that any one I accept, after sleeping with me, will leave me for another. Most of them will spend, care and will be consistent in their doings just to have me on the bed, after which they will see no other reason to keep on hanging with me except for sex.

I had been seeing it as normal, believing it as the way men behave until the last man that I fell deeply in love with.

My attitude towards him was very strict because of my experience with men but he was determined and he helped me in so many ways. I am actually not the working type, I prefer staying at home and helping any man in his house, having sex and cooking for him. Going out to work, is not really my thing.

This last man really got to me with his care and I fell for him like I never did before. On a Friday, he invited me to come over after how many months of my refusal, I agreed to go, at least to spend a night. I had it in mind that I will not have sex with him.

That day, I arrived his house which was well-furnished and comfortable. We ate together, watched movies and when it was time to sleep, I told him I want to sleep on the couch. He refused, promised not to touch me, and told me to give him a chance. He was persistent and convinced me to follow him to the room. He bade he goodnight and faced the other side.

The room was cold due to the air-conditioning and later that night, I woke up and told him to switch off the AC. However, I was shaking with cold.

He covered me with the duvet and caressed me in the process. One thing led to another and we had sex.

I really enjoyed the night. In the morning, he woke me up and we ate breakfast together. He asked me if I am going, I told him no, but he insisted I go because he was expecting some of his male friends. However, he promised to call me.

I left and was expecting his call, he never called and when I call after that day, he told me he would call me whenever he needs me. This was my experience with men, some of who would be with me for months just for sex.

I was in love with this last person, and I almost killed myself. Out of despair, I made a post detailing how I was feeling on my Facebook page. Someone referred me to www.thesolacezone.com, where I got access to a counselor who helped me.

I booked for a session and which was an eye-opener as it enabled me discover a lot about myself. I decided to hire that counsellor as my personal counsellor, and over several sessions, I developed self-esteem and stopped feeling depressed.

I discovered so many things that I was not doing well, things that I neglected, one statement from the counsellor I will always remember is that, “The only way to change people’s attitude towards you is to change your attitude towards them”.

He actually made me to understand that I have a lot to offer other than sex, which was my initial mindset.

I began to add value to myself. I acquired training in fashion design, got a job and became very busy.

One day, this last man called me, and asked me to come over. He had been calling me before, but following my counsellor’s advice, a made a decision not to visit him at home.

I invited him to my place of work where he saw how busy I was. I bought food for him and spent some time with him. He seemed happy and left after some time.

Since then, he frequently always came around to see how I am doing. However, as agreed with my counselor, I never visited him.

On his birthday, my counselor told me to surprise him, I didn’t even go to his house. I invited him over to my working place, where I surprised him with a celebration. As we were together, a girl called him and he left. I was tempted to be angry and I blamed myself for not going to his house.

My counselor will always tell me to calm down for the journey is not the type that needs rush.

We stopped talking for like a week, it was as if I was losing interest in him.

To cut my story short, on my birthday, he proposed to me with a brand new car. He told me that among all his female friends, I was the one he felt would make him a better man. He was enamored with me because I was independent and caring.

We have been together from that day till now, all thanks to my counselor. I never saw my ability to cope and to change my thoughts and attitude until I was led through the process of Counselling.