WHY MOST PEOPLE ARE BLINDED EMOTIONALLY IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
This is not your regular, you will get pregnant or contact disease kind of post, this write up has to do with emotional bonding, manipulation and miss priority in relationship.
So right now I hope you would listen.
One of the many reasons why most people get into relationships is just to have sex and money which helps them satisfy their needs or feel belonged.
Yes, you don’t need me to repeat it because you must have heard it time and time again.
This is why someone will tell you they will quit the relationship or won’t agree to date you if you say no sex before marriage or you don’t spend on them.
Let me explain this concept to you.
Love is not sex and Sex or money is not love but it is part of what we can do with people we love and trust with our body but not the determinant of who loves you.
Sex is for the married. Sex is an important part of marriage, not relationships though some active people engage in it to avoid story that touches.
You don’t have sex in marriage just because you love your partner. No.
You have sex because it’s an obligation both of you must carry out for each other but in relationship,it is not an obligation but a choice which the two partner must agree.
Thinking along…
The truth is that premarital sex causes emotional blindness, manipulation and bond of which most people won’t tell you.
How?
For some of you that are sexually active, the minute you say no more sex in this relationship, it will shock you how your partner that claims to love you so much will totally change and if you remove money from relationship you will also be shock what will happen to the relationship.
First, they will contest it, but when they see you are not in for it anymore, then they push for the two other option which is;
- Quit the relationship or,
- Start cheating by getting the sex or money outside.
Like i always will say, a person that cheats on you because of sex or quits a relationship because of sex or money never loved you.
They love the sex or money more than they say they love you so if you won’t give it to them then it’s over.
Is that what you call love?
If most people that are sexually active or people who lacks financially try this, you will see that a good number of people are in a loveless relationship sustained only by sex and money, and the day they get tired of the sex or find someone that is better than you, then it’s over.
Try it and you will see a lot of persons become single overnight. God, Love, and Sacrifice are meant to help you sustain your relationship but in your case what you are using is sex and money which is perishable.
Sex blinds your emotion to know who loves you and who doesn’t.
That’s why after the sex, you become the one doing the calling, chatting and other things. The relationship start depreciating.
Also, notice that people feel more hurt and used when they break a relationship that sex was involved more than those not sexually active because their head is clear, and they don’t feel used and those who spent their hard earn money and later got heartbroken are hurts too.
Another thing is that when you engage in this premarital sex, and if the sex is good, a good number of people become blind to things they should be aware of. Because it impairs rightful judgment. Sex is connected to a woman’s emotions, that’s why a woman finds it difficult to leave a man who deflowered her or whom she enjoyed sex with even when she’s harshly treated and most are very much concerned about the benefits which includes money, they neglect the abuses they get and still hold strong to an absuive relationship.
Most relationships should have ended by now because the guy/lady is a liar, a cheat, a violent person, or any other toxic trait you can think of but they won’t quit that relationship because the sex and money is good, like marriage is only about sex.
Receive wisdom and sense today. Don’t end up having a bad marriage because you allowed sex and money to prevent you from making the right judgment about who loves you or not.
Creat another value outside sex and money,be a problem solver, contribute and explore together.
Don’t go into a relationship because you are lonely,in need of money,in need of sex or because you want to belong.
I am Okafor Johnsteve Udochukwu,the man who believes that everyone deserves to be happy.
CONFIDANTS SOLACE ZONE
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